Our consciousness just means the other inside us and we can not live without the other, simply removing them barricaded in the house, shutting the door and turning on the television. Such removal would lead to the chasms, samskaras precisely, which would prevent a proper integration of consciousness not only fail to resolve any possible relationship problems, but build more of them. If someone says so popular that "is beside himself," that means that someone is no longer centered, that is no longer capable of making an objective analysis of the situation in which it is immersed, or if it says "is war with itself ", it means that this conflict interior has now emerged very publicly out. In fact, all the external conflicts are the result of inner conflict, with more or less direct connection between cause and effect in the consciousness of the subject. The subject often does not know what inner conflict must connect the external conflict, but what is certain is that the conflict is an external projection of internal conflicts. Sometimes it may happen that a person is in conflict with another without giving the applicant a party to the conflict or living as such: for example, A could be in conflict with B, that B is not in conflict with A, in which case the conflict but there is not a problem B, is a problema di A e A potrebbe anche non riconoscere che esso origina da una propria conflittualità interna, a causa di una mancata armonizzazione di diverse funzioni psichiche proprie, infatti generalmente il conflitto è inconscio. Tale mancanza di consapevolezza porta il soggetto a proiettare all'esterno, su differenti capri espiatori, un proprio vissuto interno ed in questo modo possono avere origine vere e proprie tragedie. Accettare che la conflittualità sia interna implica il doversi fare carico delle proprie responsabilità ed il doverle approfondire; questo è un atto estremamente onesto e coraggioso che dovrebbe essere incoraggiato in tutti. Rivolgendo la conflittualità all'esterno, invece, il soggetto crede di essere libero dal farsi carico their responsibilities, would be much easier to find a scapegoat outside, but would not solve the problems, indeed, these would tend to multiply, to get complicated. 
The interaction of certain dynamics it generates a seemingly endless network of actions and reactions, many of which occur at an unconscious level, unknown to the person who is agitated by them, not knowing what is actually happening, but being at the mercy negative emotions towards one or the other person. The really do not want to acknowledge the real problem may lead the person to use the "law of compensation", for example a person to project their own on other fear, like that of rejection and react to it by refusing to others first, in which case the mistrust felt by the person in question to herself and falsely attributed to others, for compensation, would not accept others to not be refused. The law of compensation does not solve the problem that arises, on the contrary helps to create several others and, in turn, these will generate more and more the subject is finally trapped in a constellation of problems from which he can not extricate itself unless does not ask for help. Only asking for help the person so imprisoned may resume the path towards the light, in contrast, continues to descend into chaos, the disorder, entropy. From "Me and the other in the game of life," Evening course of three lectures in the Aula Magna Bhaktivedanta Foundation Studies, 20/27 November and 4 December 2008.
